Will things ever change? #mentalhealthIssuesAreNotaTaboo

We sometimes ignore people’s messages when they want to talk to us. We call them names or crack jokes when they might be already upset with their lives. If they share their problems, we call them ‘rotlu‘. If they say they are depressed some of us shun them as if it’s a taboo. We forget we hung out with them in good times when we get too busy to be with them in their bad times…

We all have done such things sometimes.. either directly or even being a silent spectator to someone’s misery. Today we are shocked, tomorrow we’ll forget. 😩

This isn’t a one-off case. There have been many Sushants previously and there may be many like him in our circle too.

According to the WHO, 1 in every 4 person suffers from mental health issues. Sometimes children to sometimes elder people, people from humble background or the high-end class of society. Your class topper, office colleague, your doorman or maid, the guy next door. Anyone literally.

We are all posting about mental health. It’s great. Let’s put it in action. Let us be kind and compassionate. Let us be approachable.

And beyond social media, let us build true relationships with people who’ll hold our hands when things go wrong.

©positivitymonger

Embrace your uniqueness.

It was just yesterday when someone made a passing remark and compared me to someone who is superior to me in some aspects.

The whole night and the following day I kept feeling bad about it.. I wanted to ask how he dared to compare me and tell me that I’m not good enough.

But when I analyzed the whole matter at some distance, I realized that the other person may truly be good in academics than I’m or have more knowledge than I have, maybe she is indeed prettier or whatever it is…I should not feel inferior because of it.
I guess every one – literally just about everyone has felt inferior to someone else at some point of time in some way or the other. Maybe some one is more intelligent than you, more talented than you, higher educated than you, more beautiful than you, healthier or richer than you….
But we should realize that everyone is unique. We should learn to embrace our own uniqueness. As we do this, we’ll start feeling more confident and at peace with ourselves. The whole society is just continuously comparing and the whole idea now sounds so stupid to me.

Everyone talks, eats, sleeps, or thinks in a different way. So we should stop comparing our lives to others and even if we do, we shouldn’t feel sorry because of it.

P. s. We should just be confident in who we are and stop worrying if someone doesn’t like us. It’s not our problem. It’s theirs.

©positivitymonger

Quote of the day #2

True happiness comes to us only after we go through intense pain.

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Letter to my future child..

Everything starts small. The seeds for potential criminals and misogynists as well. If 15-16 year old educated children behave like we saw, somewhere we as a society have failed. Our chalta hai attitude and boys will be boys mentality is the one to blame. 

Dear future child of mine,

I don’t care if u are a boy or a girl. You’d be equal to me, let both be equal to you too. I don’t care if you are an achiever or not, I just hope you’ll be a decent human being first of all . I’ll hold your hands, teach you to jump, I’ll dry your tears, clean your bum, I’ll work hard to help u reach high. Please never do something to make me or others cry.

If you are a boy,
Respect others be it girls or boys , respect others be it ur family, girlfriend, colleague, or unknown . Stand up for ur family, stand up for unknowns.
Stand up for ur friends or even against then if situation bemoan. You’ll have many friends outside of family, but filter them out wisely. Remember what to go along with and where to put a full stop. Its brave to be alone if against the the cheap ‘boys locker room’ talk.
Remember that slang words against women are not macho, lust isn’t love and NO should mean NO . When you outgrow my need still remember the good deeds that I had sown.

If you are a girl,
I’ll give u the wings to fly high in the sky. I’ll make sure the chains of gender don’t demand your sacrifice, cry or sigh.
You’ll be perfect as u are, tall or short, fair or dark, housewife, air hostess or film star. Yet, u’ll meet many people in this journey of yours. When things go wrong, always raise ur voice don’t bear any cross.

Remember it’s okay to say No or Yes. It’s okay to forgive, adjust or chuck the things not working & start afresh.

Life is a gift and live it just like that. In ur good health & spirits, I will always be blessed.

©positivitymonger

Blessed. Thankful. Motivated.

The woods are lovely, dark and deep,   
But I have promises to keep,   
And miles to go before I sleep,   
And miles to go before I sleep….
P.s. The journey has just begun and I promise to write more posts in the coming few days.. Hope you are healthy and safe. Thank you so much my dear now 500 family..

I’m blessed. Thankful. Motivated.

Happy world wish day.. :)

I asked her to make a wish and she said she wanted to go on a shopping spree with me.
What will you buy?
A quick reply came that she always wanted to have a beautiful pink frock for herself and be dressed like a barbie doll.
Such innocence in her eyes.
Despite of going through so much of pain she wanted to live her life. No wish is big or small and this one would have brought her a lot of contentment and happiness.While volunteering at Make-A-Wish in these last four years, I got the chance to identify and fulfill several many wishes. This exercise of bringing happiness to others also gives the bearers and the instrument (me) a lot of contentment.It also gave me the chance to meet many people, and observe life and its struggles at a close range. I have learnt so many things in this journey of four years…We need to live life to its fullest irrespective of whatsoever difficulties we are going through. We should never stop fighting..We should never give up on ourselves and our truest desires..

P.S. Let us take a moment and think what we want. Let us a make a wish and never leave hope. While we try our best, let’s also believe in God for we never know when God might send an angel to fulfill it..

©positivitymonger

You are awareness of your thoughts.

You’re talking to yourself everyday even when you are reading to what I think, you’re having a conversation in your mind. Your perception is everything. Your universe started in your mother’s body, now it continues in your brain.

Remember this, you are not your thoughts, You are awareness of your thoughts. How you react to what you think determines your future. You can’t live a positive life having negative reaction to your thoughts.

What others think of you is their problem or blessing not yours. You need not be concerned about how people perceive you. It says more about them then you.

You are your best friend or your worst enemy. If you’re telling yourself you’re bad, you are ugly or you can’t do the specific work. Your mind will reinforce this within your body at a cellular level.

When you tell yourself you can’t you destroy your confidence. Just tell yourself, I can do it, I will do it, and fight the monster in your life. Learn to love yourself first. Learn to be your best friend and protect your energy to fight your demon.

You can do it, you will do it. You are special. You are loved. You are worth it all. Just believe in yourself. I do, your friends do, your family and your loved ones just want to see you happy and succeed.

It all began on a Tuesday morning.

We never had any conversation before that day until he messaged and told me that he was just about to unfriend me.
Like who does that?
Messaging a random stranger that they don’t like some of the content that is being posted.

Well well.. He was like that. And to my surprise I shouldn’t have cared about whatever he does with our social media friendship but I went ahead and asked him what was bothering him to that good extent that he decided to take such a major step? Huh!

To which he replied, “We all are struggling in lives and we seek motivational content to keep us going and when we see anything adverse, it affects our positivity.”
It was just one statement that hit me and changed my perspective about the usage of social media altogether!

We exchanged a few words after that but I never got to know him much till that Tuesday morning…

I had gone to a nearby tea stall with my friends when I saw him. I had even given him a name in my head for fun: arrogant social media friend.
He was talking to the chai-wale-bhaiya with so much ease and then sat alone. The first time I noticed how beautiful (can we even use that adjective for males?) he looked, with two dark dimples, brown eyes, his face had a glow whenever he smiled. It was just something magical. And I didn’t even realize I had been actually staring at him for the last five minutes till he called out my name and asked me to come up to him for a chit chat.

I was very surprised to see him unoccupied at this hour and that was probably the first question I had asked him after we talked about our whereabouts. But it was a Tuesday and it was his day off! We talked for an hour and in this whole time I kept nodding my head unwilling to interrupt the story he had started to tell me about his past. We never meet much people in our lives that we want to know more about but he was one of those. And this is one of the reasons why I went ahead and exchanged numbers with him.

It was very interesting to learn we were on the same page about different things and we stayed in touch. There were more such beautiful Tuesdays when I got to see him and strengthen our bond.

He was working hard to get into his dream job. Same time our bond was getting stronger and we had our first discussion about us. (Coincidentally it was also a Tuesday.) But, He wanted to focus on his career for the time being and I wanted to….

We started having differences. It got difficult to even talk at times but we got to a common ground and adjusted with the situation.

The feelings in my heart never vanished for him but distances crept in between us. The hourly long conversations shortened and we barely talked for a few minutes.

Sometime later he called me excitedly to inform that he was shifting to a different city to pursue his dream job.

I had just cut the phone when it came to my mind that nothing was the same. Our bond. We could barely talk for long as things were getting a bit awkward.

But not all people come in our lives to stay. They have a purpose with them which they fulfill in the time they’re around. He was also one of those stranger-turned-friends who made my life beautiful and gave me lessons for life.

I clearly remember it was all about that Tuesday morning when I got a friend for a lifetime.. .

©positivitymonger