Will things ever change? #mentalhealthIssuesAreNotaTaboo

We sometimes ignore people’s messages when they want to talk to us. We call them names or crack jokes when they might be already upset with their lives. If they share their problems, we call them ‘rotlu‘. If they say they are depressed some of us shun them as if it’s a taboo. We forget we hung out with them in good times when we get too busy to be with them in their bad times…

We all have done such things sometimes.. either directly or even being a silent spectator to someone’s misery. Today we are shocked, tomorrow we’ll forget. ­čśę

This isn’t a one-off case. There have been many Sushants previously and there may be many like him in our circle too.

According to the WHO, 1 in every 4 person suffers from mental health issues. Sometimes children to sometimes elder people, people from humble background or the high-end class of society. Your class topper, office colleague, your doorman or maid, the guy next door. Anyone literally.

We are all posting about mental health. It’s great. Let’s put it in action. Let us be kind and compassionate. Let us be approachable.

And beyond social media, let us build true relationships with people who’ll hold our hands when things go wrong.

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Embrace your uniqueness.

It was just yesterday when someone made a passing remark and compared me to someone who is superior to me in some aspects.

The whole night and the following day I kept feeling bad about it.. I wanted to ask how he dared to compare me and tell me that I’m not good enough.

But when I analyzed the whole matter at some distance, I realized that the other person may truly be good in academics than I’m or have more knowledge than I have, maybe she is indeed prettier or whatever it is…I should not feel inferior because of it.
I guess every one – literally just about everyone has felt inferior to someone else at some point of time in some way or the other. Maybe some one is more intelligent than you, more talented than you, higher educated than you, more beautiful than you, healthier or richer than you….
But we should realize that everyone is unique. We should learn to embrace our own uniqueness. As we do this, we’ll start feeling more confident and at peace with ourselves. The whole society is just continuously comparing and the whole idea now sounds so stupid to me.

Everyone talks, eats, sleeps, or thinks in a different way. So we should stop comparing our lives to others and even if we do, we shouldn’t feel sorry because of it.

P. s. We should just be confident in who we are and stop worrying if someone doesn’t like us. It’s not our problem. It’s theirs.

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Happy world wish day.. :)

I asked her to make a wish and she said she wanted to go on a shopping spree with me.
What will you buy?
A quick reply came that she always wanted to have a beautiful pink frock for herself and be dressed like a barbie doll.
Such innocence in her eyes.
Despite of going through so much of pain she wanted to live her life. No wish is big or small and this one would have brought her a lot of contentment and happiness.While volunteering at Make-A-Wish in these last four years, I got the chance to identify and fulfill several many wishes. This exercise of bringing happiness to others also gives the bearers and the instrument (me) a lot of contentment.It also gave me the chance to meet many people, and observe life and its struggles at a close range. I have learnt so many things in this journey of four years…We need to live life to its fullest irrespective of whatsoever difficulties we are going through. We should never stop fighting..We should never give up on ourselves and our truest desires..

P.S. Let us take a moment and think what we want. Let us a make a wish and never leave hope. While we try our best, let’s also believe in God for we never know when God might send an angel to fulfill it..

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Life has a way of sorting itself out.

Do you worry about every little thing In life? Do you also believe that everything in life is the direct result of your efforts? What if you are told that you’re just a puppet in the hands of fate and you will have no control over life no matter what you do.

Will these things start bothering you then?

In life I had often been made to understand such phrases by my friends and family that ‘when one door shuts, another opens’ ; ‘whatever happens, happens for a reason’ ; ‘everything happens for a reason’ ; ‘go with the flow’ or ‘lean into the moment’.

But we humans are stubborn and refuse to easily believe anything other than what goes into our system automatically. We fight till we get the answers or give up the battle only when life decides to teach us those lessons.

But there are some times we’ve to learn to live with the questions till life decides to provide us with the answers.

We ought to learn to have faith in our beliefs and listen to our instincts and understand that sometimes life takes us to places we never intended and this is often a better place than what we sought out for ourselves.

We should keep doing our best and have the faith that life has a way of sorting itself out.

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What makes you happy?

Have you ever asked yourself this question?
For days, I was demotivated, confused, in a state of depression. I preferred staying alone, would talk very less and my daily activities were also decreasing as lethargy was seeping in. Something was always bothering me.

One day, I decided to talk about it to a stranger as I had the fear of being judged by my known ones. After listening to my story he asked me 1 simple question. “What makes you happy?”
I was asked to introspect my inner self and jot down the things which made me happy. And I realized my Ngo work, doodling, blogging, were some of the things that topped the list.

Later, he advised me to increase the frequency of such activities in future.

And whenever i begin to feel a bit lost I ask myself this question and do the things that would feed my soul and calm my mind.

P. S. Do share some of the things which make you happy people.

And have you ever asked yourself this question? When did the need to do so arise?

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