The good old days.

Sitting in the balcony, me and my sister were discussing how fast the things have changed..

The time where we used to dance in the first rain shower, instead of updating  status on our social media about weather. 

Where we used to roam carefree without caring about our looks. 

Where going out to a fancy restaurant would mean spending some quality time with your parents, instead of showing off by clicking pictures or posting checkins. 

Where relationships are rated by the social media posts and heartbreaks take place on a phone call instead of having a real face to face conversation. 

When will we realize that our lives are incomparable to the people we stalk on Instagram?

Where are those good old days where we used to value our real life more than our virtual life?  

Where we find time for ourselves…

I am sure whenever we realize that life is beyond all these virtual things we will have a grateful attitude towards our life and surroundings

Letter to my future child..

Everything starts small. The seeds for potential criminals and misogynists as well. If 15-16 year old educated children behave like we saw, somewhere we as a society have failed. Our chalta hai attitude and boys will be boys mentality is the one to blame. 

Dear future child of mine,

I don’t care if u are a boy or a girl. You’d be equal to me, let both be equal to you too. I don’t care if you are an achiever or not, I just hope you’ll be a decent human being first of all . I’ll hold your hands, teach you to jump, I’ll dry your tears, clean your bum, I’ll work hard to help u reach high. Please never do something to make me or others cry.

If you are a boy,
Respect others be it girls or boys , respect others be it ur family, girlfriend, colleague, or unknown . Stand up for ur family, stand up for unknowns.
Stand up for ur friends or even against then if situation bemoan. You’ll have many friends outside of family, but filter them out wisely. Remember what to go along with and where to put a full stop. Its brave to be alone if against the the cheap ‘boys locker room’ talk.
Remember that slang words against women are not macho, lust isn’t love and NO should mean NO . When you outgrow my need still remember the good deeds that I had sown.

If you are a girl,
I’ll give u the wings to fly high in the sky. I’ll make sure the chains of gender don’t demand your sacrifice, cry or sigh.
You’ll be perfect as u are, tall or short, fair or dark, housewife, air hostess or film star. Yet, u’ll meet many people in this journey of yours. When things go wrong, always raise ur voice don’t bear any cross.

Remember it’s okay to say No or Yes. It’s okay to forgive, adjust or chuck the things not working & start afresh.

Life is a gift and live it just like that. In ur good health & spirits, I will always be blessed.

©positivitymonger

You are awareness of your thoughts.

You’re talking to yourself everyday even when you are reading to what I think, you’re having a conversation in your mind. Your perception is everything. Your universe started in your mother’s body, now it continues in your brain.

Remember this, you are not your thoughts, You are awareness of your thoughts. How you react to what you think determines your future. You can’t live a positive life having negative reaction to your thoughts.

What others think of you is their problem or blessing not yours. You need not be concerned about how people perceive you. It says more about them then you.

You are your best friend or your worst enemy. If you’re telling yourself you’re bad, you are ugly or you can’t do the specific work. Your mind will reinforce this within your body at a cellular level.

When you tell yourself you can’t you destroy your confidence. Just tell yourself, I can do it, I will do it, and fight the monster in your life. Learn to love yourself first. Learn to be your best friend and protect your energy to fight your demon.

You can do it, you will do it. You are special. You are loved. You are worth it all. Just believe in yourself. I do, your friends do, your family and your loved ones just want to see you happy and succeed.

Life has a way of sorting itself out.

Do you worry about every little thing In life? Do you also believe that everything in life is the direct result of your efforts? What if you are told that you’re just a puppet in the hands of fate and you will have no control over life no matter what you do.

Will these things start bothering you then?

In life I had often been made to understand such phrases by my friends and family that ‘when one door shuts, another opens’ ; ‘whatever happens, happens for a reason’ ; ‘everything happens for a reason’ ; ‘go with the flow’ or ‘lean into the moment’.

But we humans are stubborn and refuse to easily believe anything other than what goes into our system automatically. We fight till we get the answers or give up the battle only when life decides to teach us those lessons.

But there are some times we’ve to learn to live with the questions till life decides to provide us with the answers.

We ought to learn to have faith in our beliefs and listen to our instincts and understand that sometimes life takes us to places we never intended and this is often a better place than what we sought out for ourselves.

We should keep doing our best and have the faith that life has a way of sorting itself out.

©positivitymonger